I have many personal relationships that I value highly.
Whether that be with my parents, my fraternity brothers, my mentors…
They are all important to me.
However, as a very individualistic person, I sometimes feel like all people are good for is getting in the way.
I’ve always had a mind with a slim road.
I have trouble letting people walk along with me on my road, but when I need them, I call them to catch up.
It’s something tough to wrestle with.
I know I can’t do it alone, but I want to so badly.
It’s the underlying feeling we all have: We want to prove to ourselves that we can do it.
Without a hand at our side to carry part of us through.
What I’ve realized is that it takes a strong mind to not only realize when you need someone there for you, but also taking steps to reach out.
I’ve had many, many times in my life where I know that I need help, but I’d never reach out.
That’s the hardest part.
I convince myself that even though my best interest is to ask for help…
It makes me want even more to get out of the hole on my own.
So, how do I combat this?
I tell myself the truth.
I know that if I keep digging to get out of a hole on my own, I’ll just make it deeper.
I’ll lose energy.
It will become harder and harder every time.
I love my people, but I also struggle with putting other people on my road.
But, Nelson, guess what?
Just because they’re on my road doesn’t mean that they’re in the way.
Let people walk with you.
You always need them.
You never know when you might fall.
Have someone there to pick you up, because you can only help yourself so much.
People aren’t a problem unless you make them one.