It always feels good to care about something.
Care defines value and the things we care about hold value in our lives.
I used to hate caring about things because although I was thankful for the value that each thing brought to my life, I always felt lots of pressure not to lose it.
I started to hold onto care too tightly.
The other night, I learned a valuable lesson about care:
You can still care about something and not hold onto it so tightly.
I was playing basketball and was having a bad game.
I was frustrated, continuously missing shots, and I was not helping my team.
I started to shut down and stop caring.
That was not helpful.
After the game, I started thinking about why I was so wound up about a recreational game of basketball.
I am not a perfectionist. I know I won’t go out and make 100% of my shots.
However, I do expect to make some shots and provide value to my team.
That amount of value is subjective to your personal expectations, but I was not performing up to mine in that game.
As I have learned in other moments in my life, I become tense and start to get frustrated when I’m not performing up to my expectations.
I always take a step back and breathe. I want to relax and remind myself that a mistake doesn’t define you. You are defined by how you come back from it.
In that game, I wish I had taken a step back to breathe.
I was at a point where I was holding on too strongly to my care.
It is okay to care.
However, I needed to let go a bit.
Going forward, I want to continuously remind myself of a few things:
- Be thankful for the value that each place of care gives you. Whether it’s a person, activity, etc, that thing is important to you and makes you a better man. Be thankful.
- Don’t strangle your care. Just because it is important doesn’t mean I have to grip so tightly that I go too far. Let it flow and let it go.
I will always care about a lot of things.
I will always be thankful for a lot of things.
Those two words (care and thankful) should always go hand in hand.
I am thankful for the care I have and what cares for me.
I am thankful for the learning I continue to receive.
Let’s continue to care in the right ways.