The wandering mind can be a dangerous thing.
For me, it is what hampers me the most.
One thought leads to another and it’s a cycle that is hard to stop.
Being bored is not only a situation that can lead to a wandering mind, but it can also lead to feeling lonely.
Usually, when I am bored, it’s because I have nothing to do and no one to do it with.
At least, there is nothing on my calendar that tells me I am supposed to do something.
These feelings of loneliness and a wandering mind are fairly consistent throughout my daily life.
And I really, really, really don’t want them to be.
So, let’s combat this!
Last night, I made a good step towards combatting these feelings.
I typically get to the point where I convince myself not to reach out to people because no one wants to hear about my problems (which may be partially true, but there are always people available to listen).
I know that it’s inconvenient and I don’t want to be a bother, but last night, I needed to be a bother.
Being a bother, internally for me, brings me much more peace than being a bore.
So, I called my friend Matt and we drove around assessing my feelings, giving positive movements for the future, and reminding each other of how things are.
The moral of the night was this:
Find your purpose and chase it.
- Your purpose is something you know you are good at naturally and that gives you internal peace. Figure out what that action/trait is and grind at it. It’s going to bring you and those around you joy.
- Sometimes, your purpose isn’t exactly clear. Also, your purpose could be something that takes work to get to. When you are in that position, you have to set up a plan. If it takes 10 steps, find a step and take it! It will sometimes seem like it’s too hard to take even one step. Even if the step isn’t what you think is the first step, once you see the opportunity, take that step in confidence, knowing that this step showed up first for a reason.
- Most importantly, stay patient. This has been the hardest thing for me and I’ve discussed this before, but patience requires you to take a look at reality. Reality is pretty harsh, but it’s always what you need to hear. Reality gives you a clear idea and one thing to focus on/to know. When the mind wanders, you distort reality and you have no clear ideas. The ideas are all blurry and none are probably true. This patience that will be required is basically a big test. It’s going to require study, involvement, focus, stability… A lot of things! However, if you put your mind in reality and take your steps, you’ll get there before you know it.
Being able to give myself these reminders last night was very beneficial and shows the progress that I believe that I am making.
Sadness, pain, anxiety, loneliness, questioning, curiosity…
All of these feelings will exist in your life, but they don’t have to stay there.
It’s not about the feelings being here, it’s what you’re going to do with them.
We wake up each day with a new pair of cards in our hands, and most of the time, it’s not what we want.
However, there is always a chance for a victory and it’s about taking the chance with what you’re given.
You never know where it might take you.
That pair of cards may not be the step in your plan that you wanted to see next, but it’s what you’ve got.
So let’s do this with our pair of cards:
- Find your purpose
- Remind ourselves of reality
- Stay patient
- Take your step
- Get to work!