An impactful question that a former counselor posed to me was, "Are you living life or experiencing life?" I pondered that briefly but knew what she meant. I had been living in my past - reflecting on mistakes, trying to figure out what I should be learning and applying - and living in my future…
All of us are dealing with emotions that are connected to our experiences. Whether something happened 8 hours ago, 8 months ago, or 8 years ago, each of these experiences and the reactions we had from them carries with us throughout our lives. Really, we are all kind of just learning to deal with our…
One of my greatest struggles, especially amidst a time of anxiety, is trying to find meaning in a period of silence. Whether that is from someone not responding to a text, being alone and dealing with the lack of noise/interaction going on around you, or simply your mind trying to fill space with distractions, it…
There is a battle of emotions that we feel when we discover something in our time of reflection. The positive emotions: Joy: We are uplifted by the fact that we became aware of or found something within ourselves. Comfort: We can sit with our feelings now, knowing something about them (where they came from, what…
The mental warfare that we face in our minds is often rooted in the reality we place our minds in. There are lots of things happening around us each day, so what do we gravitate towards? We can gravitate towards the weather of the day: How the outside makes us feel. We can gravitate towards…
One of the greatest internal challenges I face in my mind and soul each day is dealing with my emotions. I have always felt that my emotional connection to life and my reflective personality has made for some powerful emotional experiences, which have created a lot of wonderful learning and growth in my emotional intelligence.…
"I may win, I may lose." Reflection is such an intentional part of my life and routine. Whether it occurs in solitude, in a conversation with another, or amidst a large gathering, I enjoy the process of taking my experiences and writing, praying, thinking on them to drive an end result from the experiences I…
I had a significant realization when I first began going to counseling in 2018. At that time in my life, I was frustrated about the lack of connection I felt with those around me and felt like my reflection wasn't getting me anywhere (I had just started practicing active reflection). My counselor stopped me in…
Today might have been the quietest day I have ever experienced. My office was empty at work. I focused on using that time to be productive. My apartment was peaceful, just watching the cars through the now leafless trees at sunset. Went on a walk with my dog and didn't see a single person during…
Yesterday, while on a drive, I found my mind being still. Those moments are nice. When the mind can rest and sit in the moment at hand. I then looked around, scanning the view around me on my drive. I started to point out things that I enjoyed. Things that I was thankful for. Not…
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