An impactful question that a former counselor posed to me was, "Are you living life or experiencing life?" I pondered that briefly but knew what she meant. I had been living in my past - reflecting on mistakes, trying to figure out what I should be learning and applying - and living in my future…
The concept of control is one that we strive for as humans in everything we do. We want to feel like we always have a slice of power in every piece of our lives - it brings us comfort to know we are able to hold something in our hands - to be able to…
There are three things we all want to be: Seen Heard Loved That's the simple foundation of all of our relationships. We want to give and receive the ability to be known and to be held. I think about the times that I am feeling lonely, sad, angry... many times the root of those feelings…
My last post talked about the importance of growing up, but there is something I felt worth adding to that. On December 1st, we got snow in Kansas City. As I watched the snowflakes fall outside my window, I turned on some Christmas music and lit a candle. I began to reflect on some memories…
All of us are dealing with emotions that are connected to our experiences. Whether something happened 8 hours ago, 8 months ago, or 8 years ago, each of these experiences and the reactions we had from them carries with us throughout our lives. Really, we are all kind of just learning to deal with our…
What if every time we did something for someone, we did it with zero expectation that something would come back? Whether that be something as "simple" as saying thank you, holding a door, giving a compliment, or something "big" like paying a bill, picking up a shift, etc. I believe that when we give something…
One of my greatest struggles, especially amidst a time of anxiety, is trying to find meaning in a period of silence. Whether that is from someone not responding to a text, being alone and dealing with the lack of noise/interaction going on around you, or simply your mind trying to fill space with distractions, it…
When working to retrain your brain and being aware of the spaces you are placing your mind in, you begin to analyze the actions you are taking throughout your day. I was thinking about what I chose to do this morning that had made me a bit anxious. What I did this morning when I…
Following up on yesterday's post on shifting expectations, I have found more helpful reflection and learning in today. I spent time talking to both of my parents yesterday, continuing to explain and work through these places in my mind that have been bringing me anxiety and pain. In today, I spent time reflecting on those…
A challenge I am facing is trying to shift my expectations. This goes for myself, for other people, for my relationships, for my job, for really everything. I have a constant yearning for improvement of self, for deep conversations and connection with other people, for every relationship to be rock solid and vulnerable, for my…
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